Everyone preaches self-love, but no-one seems to tell us how to practise it. In this article I want to talk about 5 simple, practical ways to do just that.
Self soothing techniques are ways we can calm ourselves down when we feel overwhelmed by negative emotions. Survivors of abuse and childhood trauma often struggle to self-soothe, partly because of the physiological differences between their brain and that of a neurotypical person- we lack integration between the left and right hemispheres of the brain, meaning that when we become emotional our rational side tends to go “offline”.
In this article, I will explain what emotional flashbacks are, what they feel like from the inside, and how we can both recognise and manage them effectively.
Those of us who had a traumatic childhood or who have been in abusive relationships in adulthood often experience trauma bonding- forming strong emotional attachments to abusive partners. These trauma bonds can be extraordinarily strong and pervasive, and hard for the neurotypical person to understand. “Why does she keep going back to him if he beats her?” they wonder. “Why does he take her back every time she cheats on him?”. Or “why are those two even together when they clearly hate each other?”.
Here are five more ways that have helped me to heal trauma and find my way to inner peace.